Heath and Aging

So Far Away: Twenty Questions and Answers About Long-Distance Caregiving

Points to Remember

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My mom's a widow, and I realize that it's time for me to become more involved in her life. So far, my sister has been doing most of the work. What are the most important points to remember as I begin?

Start by checking with your sister; ask what would help her the most. And talk to your mom to see if there is something special you can do for her.

Learn. Ask your friends who are involved in caregiving if they have suggestions about ways to help. Find out more about resources where your mom and sister live that might be useful for them. Develop a good understanding of your mom's health issues and other needs.

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Visit as often as you can. Not only might you be able to notice something that needs to be done and can be taken care of from a distance, but you can also relieve your sister for a short time.

Caregiving—whether long-distance or hands-on—can be difficult and time-consuming, but it can also be rewarding. Even from a distance, you can help make your mom's life easier.

Publication Date: June 2011
Page Last Updated: August 31, 2015