Gerald, 73, had a stroke. Unable to care for himself, he moved in with his son’s family. His son tried to help, but it was Frances, his daughter-in-law, who usually cooked special meals and helped him bathe and dress. Frances was already busy staying ahead of two teenage boys and teaching third grade. At first everyone was glad to have Gerald living with the family. But after a few months, Frances was yelling at him often and sometimes didn’t help him get dressed until late afternoon. Gerald was upset, but he didn’t know what to do.